No. 3458

Jabir b. 'Abdullah (Allaah be pleased with them) reported: I married a woman during the lifetime of Allaah's Messenger (sallAllaahu alayhi wa sallam). I met the Prophet of Allaah (sallAllaahu alayhi wa sallam), whereupon he said: Jabir, have you married? I said: Yes. He said: A virgin or one previously marrried? I said: With due previously married, whereupon he said: Why did you not marry a virgin with whom you could sport? I said: Allaah's Messenger, I have sisters; I was afraid that she might intervene between me and them, whereupon he said: Well and good, if it is so. A woman is married for four reasons, for her religion, her property, her status, her beauty, so you should choose one with religion. May your hands cleave to dust.

No. 3459

Jabir b. 'Abdullah (Allaah be pleased with them) reported: I married a woman, whereupon Allaah's Messenger (sallAllaahu alayhi wa sallam) said to me: Have you married? I said: Yes. He said: Is it a virgin or a previously married one (widow or divorced)? I said: With a previously married one, whereupon he said: Where had you been (away) from the amusements of virgins? Shu'ba said: I made a mention of it to 'Amr b. Dinar and he said: I too heard from Jabir making mention of that (that Allaah's Prophet) said: Why didn't you marry a girl, so that you might sport with her and she might sport with you?

No. 3460

Jabir b. 'Abdullah (Allaah be pleased with them) reported: 'Abdullah died and he left (behind him) nine or seven daughters. I married a woman who had been previously married. Allaah's Messenger (sallAllaahu alayhi wa sallam) said to me: Jabir, have you married? I said: Yes. He (again) said: A virgin or one previously married? I said: Messenger of Allaah, with one who was previously married, whereupon he said: Why didn't you marry a young girl so that you could sport with her and she could sport with you, or you could amuse with her and she could amuse with you? I said to him: 'Abdullah died (he fell as martyr in Uhud) and left nine or seven daughters behind him; I, therefore, did not approve of the idea that I should bring a (girl) like them, but I preferred to bring a woman who should look after them and teach them good manners, whereupon he (Allaah's Messenger) said: May Allaah bless you, or he supplicated (for the) good (to be) conferred on me (by Allaah).

No. 3461

Jabir b. 'Abdullah (Allaah be pleased with them) reported Allaah's Messenger (sallAllaahu alayhi wa sallam) said to me: Jabir, have you married? The rest of the hadith is the same up to (the words):" The woman would look after them and comb them." He (Allaah's Messenger), said: You did well. But no mention is made of the subsequent portion.

No. 3462

Jabir b. 'Abdullah (Allaah be pleased with them) reported: We were with Allaah's Messenger (sallAllaahu alayhi wa sallam) in an expedition. When we returned I urged my camel to move quickly as it was slow. There met me a rider from behind me and he goaded it with an iron-tipped stick which he had with him. My camel moved forward like the best that you have ever seen. As I turned (my face) I found him to be Allaah's Messenger (sallAllaahu alayhi wa sallam) He said: Jabir, what hastens you? I said: Messenger of Allaah, I am newly wedded. whereupon he said: Is it a virgin that you have married or one previously married? I said: With one previously married. He said: Why not a young girl so that you could play with her and she could play with you? Then when we arrived at and were about to enter Medina he said: Wait, so that we may enter by night (i. e. in the evening) in order that the woman with dishevelled hair may comb it, and the woman whose husband had been away may get herself clean; and when you enter (then you have the) enjoyment (of tho wife's company).

No. 3463

Jabir b. 'Abdullah (Allaah be pleased with him) reported: I went out with Allaah's Messenger (sallAllaahu alayhi wa sallam) on an expedition, but my camel delayed me. Allaah's Messenger (sallAllaahu alayhi wa sallam) came to me and said to me: Jabir, I said: Yes. Allaah's Messenger, (here I am at your beck and call) He said: What is the matter with you? I said: My camel has delayed me and is tired, so I have lagged behind. He (the Prophet) got down and goaded it with a crooked stick and then said: Mount it. So I mounted and (to my great surprise) I saw it (moving so quickly that) I had to restrain it (from going ahead of) Allaah's Messenger (sallAllaahu alayhi wa sallam). He (the Prophet) (in the course of journey said to me): Have you married? I said: Yes. He (again) said: Is it with a virgin or one previously married? I said. With one previously married, whereupon he (again) said: Why not with a young girl with whom you could sport and she could have sported with you? I said: I have sisters, so I preferred to marry a woman who could keep them together (as one family). who could comb them and look after them. He said: You are about to go (to your house), and there you have the enjoyment (of the wife's company). He again said: Do you want to sell your camel? I said: Yes. So he bought it from me for one u'qiya (of silver), Then Allaah's Messenger (sallAllaahu alayhi wa sallam) arrived (at Medina) and I arrived in the evening. I went to the mosque and found him at the door of the mosque, and said: Is it now that you have arrived? I said: Yes, He said: Leave your camel, and enter (the mosque) and offer two rak'ahs. So I entered and offered two rak'ahs of prayer, and then returned. He (the Prophet) then commanded Bilal to weigh out one 'uqiya (of silver) tor me. Bilal weighed that out for me (lowering the scale of) balance. So I proceeded and as I turned my back he said: Call for me, Jabir. So I was called back, and I said (to myself): He would return me the camel, and nothing was more displeasing to me than this (that after having received the price I should also get the camel). He said: Take your camel and keep its price with you, (also).

No. 3464

Jabir b. 'Abdullah (Allaah be pleased with them) reported: We were with Allaah's Messenger (sallAllaahu alayhi wa sallam) in a journey, and I was riding a camel meant for carrying water and it lagged behind all persons. Allaah's Messenger (sallAllaahu alayhi wa sallam) hit it or goaded it (I think) with something he had with him. And after it (it moved so quickly) that it went ahead of all persons and it struggled with me (to move faster than I permitted It) and I had to restrain it. Allaah's Messenger (sallAllaahu alayhi wa sallam) said: Do you sell it at such and such (price)? May Allaah grant you pardon. I said: Allaah's Prophet, it is yours. He (again) said: Do you sell it at such and such (price)? May Allaah grant you pardon. ' I said: Allaah's Prophet, it is yours. He said to me: Have you married after the death of your father? I said: Yes. He (again) said: With one previously married or a virgin? I said: With one previously married. He said: Why didn't you marry a virgin who might amuse you and you might amuse her, and she might sport with you and you might sport with her? Abu Nadra said: That was the common phrase which the Muslims spoke:" You do such and such (thing) and Allaah may grant you pardon."